I\u2019m picking at the scab on my face in the reflection of the phone as it rings. \u201cC\u2019mon, c\u2019mon. Pick up.\u201d The phone stops ringing and at the top it says: \u201cSister Dear Facetime unavaliable\u201d and with a sigh I tap the cancel button. Then within the next minute the ringing is back and it\u2019s my Sister Dear, Tiffany, FaceTiming me back.<\/p>\n
I tap the answer button, she is wearing a towel and in the process of drying off her hair. It\u2019s 11pm at night. She likes to shower late, just like when all of our conversations happen. Late.<\/p>\n
Yet, once the other answers it\u2019s like we aren\u2019t even apart. It immediately goes into a conversation regarding about her day and days past because some days, there isn\u2019t much to talk about or there just isn\u2019t time for us to talk.<\/p>\n
The thing is with FaceTime conversations they can last a while, compared to a quick phone conversation. Brayton Hagge, in her last year of college at Morningside has a younger sister, Keely, who just started college at Doane. It was between Brayton\u2019s classes when she got a call from her sister needing to talk to her as soon as she can.<\/p>\n
Long-distance sibling relationship aren\u2019t your typical relationship because relationships fade over time, sibling ties are forever. When you stop talking to or seeing a friend so often, sometimes the relationship is still the same when you meet up again but other times, the connection just is no longer there. You don\u2019t really have that problem with siblings. Which is a broad thing to say because not all siblings get along, it\u2019s just the family connection. You don\u2019t have to talk or interact often because no matter what family ties last.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat is it like being away from your sibling?\u201d I asked my sister over FaceTime.<\/p>\n
\u201cWell, it\u2019s hard. Really hard because sometimes you just want to talk to someone who understands everything about you, but you can\u2019t because schedules are different, when one person is free the other isn\u2019t, or sleeping. . . it\u2019s just hard.\u201d<\/p>\n
Brayton agrees when I say when I talk to my sister it\u2019s never chit-chat it\u2019s always, \u201cI had a really bad day can you listen to me?\u201d or \u201cOMG this just happened!\u201d or \u201cOMG I can\u2019t believe this just happened to me.\u201d or even \u201cHey, I just wanted to hear your voice.\u201d because those are the only times Brayton hears from Keely, as with me and Tiffany. It\u2019s the dramatic moments or the big moments in life that make long distance sibling relationships hard because you\u2019re only in contact with those moments.<\/p>\n
Brayton says it was hard studying abroad in northern Ireland last year because she had to miss her sister\u2019s high school graduation<\/p>\n
Distance; part of growing up–> different from other times<\/p>\n
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distance impact the relationship<\/p>\n
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way this pain\/hurt can be avoided<\/p>\n
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conclusion: it doesn\u2019t get easier but you can take steps and find ways to keep in touch.<\/p>\n
Phone conversation. Texting is hard because so busy and things can distract you when texting, but on the phone it is in the moment and present for the personand self.<\/p>\n
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Questions for Reader:<\/p>\n
What do you want to read?<\/p>\n
What do you want to know?<\/p>\n
Confusion?<\/p>\n
What think should be added?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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